Almost a quarter of the population is chronic procrastinators. It’s a serious problem, and if you’re one of those people then you have probably been wondering why the typical advice just doesn’t work for you. Having someone tell you to get on with it is a lot like telling someone who is dealing with clinical depression that they just need to cheer up.
Are You A Chronic Procrastinator?
• Do you pay your bills late?
• Do you often miss events because you can’t get yourself together in time or you failed to purchase tickets?
• Do you miss appointments with the doctor and/or dentist?
• Do you make your kids late for school or are you always late to pick them up?
• Is your refrigerator always empty because you haven’t gone shopping?
• Are you late for everything, whether it’s work or a social gathering?
If it’s a yes to most of these questions then it’s a yes to you being a chronic procrastinator. As it turns out, according to Psychology Today, one of the biggest reasons for people being procrastinators is a strict parent. Perhaps the reason for this is that it’s a way of coping, unable to rebel against their stern parents they find a way to exert some control.
Additionally, many people procrastinate because they feel so under pressure to obtain perfection that they would rather not do them at all, rather than risk failing and dealing with the judgment of others. It’s a case of being too worried what others think about you.
There Is A Cure
There are ways to deal with procrastination, from counseling and cognitive behavioral therapy. The purpose of this is to reroute negative or inaccurate thinking that is harming your ability to thrive in life. There are self-help options available to you, too.
• Surround Yourself
With People Who Take Action. If you spend time with other procrastinators then you’re very likely going to keep putting these off.
Instead, surround yourself with the people, who take action, they’re a good influence on you. A bit like you can improve your positivity by being around people who are always positive.
• Start Doing.
You have to start somewhere, just start and do it one step at a time. If it’s an essay, you need to write then get started with a paragraph. If it’s clearing out your old clothing then work room by room – if something feels overwhelming to you and that puts you off, find a way to break it down further.
• A Reward System.
Obviously, it’s more fun to do things that you enjoy, but life can’t always be enjoyable. There are things that you have to do, so when it comes to those things work out a reward system. If you tackle the ironing pile then you can treat yourself to a half hour of whatever you want.
If you are a procrastinator, then it’s time to take action. While you may think it’s no big deal, the truth is that it can stop you from living the life that you want. You may feel as though you’re functioning just fine, but just because you’ve gotten through the setbacks thus far doesn’t mean they won’t eventually catch up with you.
It will reach a point where it is disruptive to your life and it can affect how people view you. Living life as a chronic procrastinator is not a comfortable one. In fact, you’re more likely to experience regret. There is far too much life out there to live to allow yourself to get caught up procrastinating.
Don’t Let Fear Stop You From Living Your Life To The Fullest.
Is Fear Keeping You From Taking Action In Your Life
Is fear keeping you from doing the things you want to do? Is fear preventing you from reaching your goals, asking that girl out or going skydiving.
Everyone knows what fear feels like; we have all experienced it at some point in our lives. At times, it can give us warnings about impending dangers, things that we need to be at least very aware of, and in most cases, completely avoid.
At other times though, fear is something that can greatly limit our lives and our capacity for self-expression; you can overcome this kind of fear, and this is what we are going to take a closer look at here.
Fear is stifling, it limits our ability to really live life, no matter what action it prevents us from engaging in.
The fear that we are talking about here is the fear that you feel when something makes you extremely nervous. In fact, in most cases of this kind of fear, it isn’t the thing itself that makes us feel fearful, it is the thought about what could happen.
When we think negatively about a potential situation, we are likely to push that situation away so that we don’t have to deal with whatever that situation is.
When we have allowed ourselves to be restricted by fear for a long time, it becomes a part of us, and we don’t notice how much it is limiting us. The more we succumb to fear, the more of a habit it becomes, as avoidance becomes are “go to” reaction to fear.
We don’t even get to experience the slight nervousness that comes from thinking about it; we simply just don’t go there.
When we look at our fears objectively, when we critique them, analyze, and inspect them, we can figure out potential strategies to overcome that fear and begin to remove the limitations that it has imposed upon us. The most important part of this process is our desire to overcome the fear.
When considering our desire to overcome the fear, it can help us to look at both potential outcomes; this being the result of the two directions that we face.
We will either face the fear and evolve; or
We will not face the fear, and we will stay in the same place.
When considering these two options, we must be completely honest with ourselves and answer the following question – Is it more important for me to face this fear than it is to stay in the same place that I am in now?
If the potential outcome of staying in the same place, having nothing change for you, isn’t completely repulsive to you, then in most cases you will choose not to face the fear. However, if you can’t stand the thought of staying in the same place and continuing to have this same fear looming over you for the rest of your life, then you have no choice but to face it.
So, what exactly do we have to do?
First Think, Then Don’t Think Just Act!
The first thing to do is to think about how we are going to act to overcome the fear. Once we have a clear plan of action set out in our minds, one that is realistic and not just a fanciful wish, then all we must do is act.
Most people, once they have committed their intention to acting, should simply stop thinking about it and do whatever needs to be done. For the majority of people, their thoughts would only serve to reinforce their fears and attempt to persuade them to turn back; if you are this kind of person, just don’t think, or at least ignore your thoughts and act on your original intention to conquer your fear as fast as you possibly can.
Another way of saying this is – Don’t Hesitate!
When you decide that you must conquer your fear, don’t let another thought get in the way to convince you otherwise.
Just go for it, and don’t hesitate!
Feel the fear but do it anyway! This motto can really elevate your life to a whole new level, and you will never regret it!