Did you know that one of the most common reasons for a person to fall into a state of stagnation in their life is the fear of making mistakes? At the same time, one of the major reasons for other people to fail at their attempted successes is because they don’t understand the importance of reflecting upon their mistakes.
In my life, I love dealing with mistakes. Do you know why? It’s because when I make a mistake it teaches me something. When I do something, or aim to achieve a certain goal, and I fail, I see it as a great opportunity to learn how to be better at doing whatever that thing was.
Think about it this way.
If you got everything right all the time, when would you have chance to learn to become more than what you already are?
If you are constantly achieving everything you want to achieve the first time you attempt to achieve it, I will guarantee you that you are not evolving, not pushing yourself beyond your limits.
The real growth always happens during failures, mistakes and disappointments, as long as we are aware, and open to learning.
The Gamers Analogy
I am sure that at least some of you out there would consider yourself a gamer. If not, you are probably part of a generation of people who reached 50 years of age before the year 2000. If this is the case, you really should have a go at it some time, you might find out that it is thoroughly enjoyable.
Some video games are extremely easy, and some are extremely difficult, to beat. Beating a video game means that you complete everything it has to offer, you collect every item, you overcome every enemy, and you complete every level or task.
As is the case with most video games, the difficulty ranges somewhere between and easy mode and a hard mode. The more difficult the level, the greater the reward will be at the end of the game. In most cases, the rewards you get throughout the game will be better too.
If you play the game on easy for a long time, you will find that it becomes too easy. Pushing yourself to the next level though, means the chances for you to fail increase, and so do the opportunities for you to get frustrated, extremely frustrated.
But this is what gaming is all about. When you push yourself to the next level in a video game, your hand-eye coordination must improve, your puzzle solving ability must increase, your mental endurance and determination must expand, and your focus and concentration must become more refined.
Life works in the same way.
When you allow yourself to move to the next level in life, you are moving into the realm of personal growth. Yes, it comes with mistakes and disappointments at times, but these are a clear reflection that you simply haven’t reached your destination yet, that is all. Just because you fail, or just because you get disappointed at some part of the journey doesn’t mean you should give up.
What it does mean, is that you should refine your strategy a little bit further, you should enhance your skill set a little bit more, and you should re-commit yourself to pushing further and harder than you ever have before.
This is how you grow.
This is how you evolve.
Without mistakes and disappointments, life would just be a roller-coaster ride that stays at the same level and what would be the point of that?
The part that makes a roller coaster exciting is the knowledge that after climbing up-hill for a while, you are going to reach the top and come hurtling down at break-neck speed.
If the roller coaster just stayed at the same level, it wouldn’t be called a roller-coaster, it would be called a merry go-round. And rather than stay on the same old trajectory, spinning around in circles, chasing your tail, don’t you think it’s time to grow up and come and play on the rides for big kids?
I’ll see you at the front of the line when you get here.