Something that humans enjoy is having control – we would do just about anything to prevent that terrible feeling of uncertainty… but in life, it’s unavoidable. At times, uncertainty isn’t just unsettling, it’s crippling. However, it’s vital for growth and when you find yourself faced with a change or period in your life that is challenging you can ask yourself what lesson is in it. What is it that you need to face head first and conquer?
Your uncertainty could be due to anything – it could be a difficult trend in your industry that is making you rethink your career choice and wonder if you’re truly capable. It might be a shift in your finances that has left you worrying about your cash flow.
It could be uncertainty in your relationship that is forcing you to be more honest. Uncertainty doesn’t always have to be negative, there is a lot of good to be found. You can’t see what the future holds, the only thing you can do is plan and be prepared to embrace whatever change comes to you.
Putting A Plan In Place
• Build Your Self-Respect
When you make promises to yourself, learn how to deliver on them. If it’s financial insecurity, then create a budget, balance it, and stick to what you’ve set for yourself. If you’re chasing a new job then promise yourself, you’ll make five new contacts every week.
If you’re ready to settle down and find a long-term relationship then follow through by going on at least one date a week with someone who is a potential match. The more frequently you make promises and keep them, the more you realize how strong you are and how you can handle any storm. It’s all about building self-respect and learning how to trust yourself.
It starts with honesty, part of building trust with yourself and in relationships with others is being open, and honest about who you truly are.
Creating certainty for your finances means being honest about your income and your outgoings and learning how to deal with your poor spending habits. When you achieve peace with regards to your choices (whether it’s moving home, leaving the country or getting a divorce) you should be able to communicate your decision to others who will be impacted by it. Do so with grace.
One of the most upsetting parts about life’s situations is the reaction of others. That uncertainty can be even worse than the uncertainty surrounding your situation. Be prepared to listen, but be prepared to state your case and move on.
• Understand Uncertainty
Every journey is laced with risk, pain, laughter, celebration, and loss. Unfortunately, we can’t cherry pick life and experience only the parts we want to. The ride is all-inclusive and part of embracing uncertainty means understanding that it will always be there. You can let it hold you back or you can work through it to find joy and purpose.
• Seek Adventure
Life-changing moments often occur when we are simply going with the flow. Sometimes by letting go of comfort, adventure comes naturally because we’re stopped trying to control every situation that we find ourselves in. There is strength in letting things unfold without intention.
We are all guilty of allowing fear to keep us stagnant. We don’t chase opportunities because we’re afraid of giving up stability. We won’t break up with the person who makes us miserable because we’re worried no one else will love us. We keep doing the same things over and over and wondering why it doesn’t make us happy today, even though it didn’t bring happiness yesterday. With change comes excitement and progress, it isn’t something you should fear.
Enjoying Your Life Versus Simply Existing
One of the common desires that people experience in their life is summed up as a well-known saying – “I want to thrive, not just survive.” This can also be interpreted as enjoying life as opposed to simply existing. When there is a deep need for a person to change their way of life, the world has a way of presenting this in the form of a new opportunity to change.
Unfortunately, many people miss these opportunities due to being restricted by their own self-imposed limitations and negative mindsets.
These negative mindsets can only manifest when a person is approaching their life from the wrong point of view.
We are going to explore this a little here, in the hopes of helping people to overcome these kinds of limitations.
I Can’t Get No Satisfaction
The most important thing for us to understand when we want to transition from a life where we are merely existing, to a live that we truly enjoy is the idea of honesty and self-reflection. We cannot even begin to think about truly enjoying our lives if we don’t first learn to understand ourselves deeply. What does this mean? It means understanding our needs and our desires at a very fundamental level.
Someone who has a very clear idea of their needs will be able to focus their lives and minds in a way that work towards their required and desired attainments.
On the other hand, someone who is only focused on their desires and over-looking their needs may go about causing themselves more harm in the hopes of going after what they want.
This self-inflicted harm will leave them feeling worse off, even if they do somehow manage to attain the desire that they first set out to attain.
When we focus upon our needs first, we can ensure that all the fundamental requirements for our life are met. This gives us a stable foundation to build upon, whereby we can then set about developing ourselves in a way that leads us towards the things that we desire as well.
Stable Terrain Versus Rocky Terrain
It doesn’t matter what kind of foundation you build for yourself, if it is built on an unstable terrain it will eventually come crashing down around you. Ensuring that your essential foundation is safe and secure though means you will be able to build upon it in a way that allows you to experiment with what comes next. Even if what you build upon that foundation collapses, your foundation will remain intact.
Enough with analogies, let’s be very clear on this.
When you have built a way of life that takes care of your essential needs, this can be considered as a stable foundation. Once you have this in place, your desires can then be sought after. Your desires sit on top of your needs, and so you can remove them at any point and simply return the stable foundation.
If you approach this problem from the other way around though, you are going to find great difficulty at every turn, because the energy you put into your desires will not be giving you the things that you really need.
You absolutely must consider your needs, making them your number one priority. Work to attain these first, and once they have been attained then set out to achieve your added desires. This will allow you to enjoy your life more because you will have a concrete knowledge that no matter what happens while you are chasing your dreams, whether you succeed or fail, your essential needs are always met. From here, you are free to play around with whatever you want, and you will never be really concerned if things don’t go as planned.
This is the key to enjoying your life, to thriving, as opposed to simply existing or surviving.